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Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Meet Men Using The Laws Of Attraction

I can identify with this common situation as I too am a single woman. And I have had my share of dating experiences that I'd rather not repeat. So how do we change our failures to successes. You have to change the way you think about yourself and the man you are looking to meet. You must have a very clear idea of what you want in a potential boyfriend or partner. So I guess the first place to start is to sit down with pad and pen and make a list of all the qualities you admire and want your guy to have. Be realistic, nobody's perfect. Keep it simple make it a relatively short list because you don't want to set your expectations too high in the beginning.

Most people think that the laws of attraction don't work because they think it's like positive affirmations, the more you say it will make it so. This is not the case. It's not repeating something. It is changing your attitude, way of thinking and expectations. People who want to be rich try this and say "it doesn't work because I'm not rich". No but what did you think about today? Were you thinking about how great it would be to expand your business, or buy a bigger house, or get that new car you've been wanting. The answer most times is no. They actually spent the day thinking about their budget, when the phone bill is due, the rent payment, their kids doctor bills, how can they get more insurance and the list goes on.

Is it clear yet why their not rich? Their attention is always on what they are lacking. It is always focused on the negative. So it stands to reason that if we are like magnets and attract things similar to ourselves. If we have a mentality of always getting less than we deserve, then that is what we will get. Always less than we deserve. And this works for relationships too.

I'm sure we all have at least one friend that we feel is dating below their standards. They put up with guys showing up late, or not calling when they say they will, and they keep giving these guys another chance every time. I need to point this out about not calling when they say they will because it is actually an important issue. It may not seem like a big thing, but when a guy says "I'll call you at 5pm tomorrow" and then doesn't he is wasting your time. These women are kind-hearted and feel that they should give the benefit of the doubt. But what they need to do is raise their standards and expectations. Then they would be dating a better group of men who would show up on time, call you when they say and prove that there are good guys out there. We just need to find them.

So how do we use the laws of attraction when it comes to dating?

1. Make your list of desirable traits, likes and characteristics. Example: kind, likes dogs and kids, etc.
2. Make a list of behaviors that you find intolerable: lateness, poor hygiene, bad breath, etc and etc.
3. Make a list of qualities you wish you had yourself. This is about changing you, not changing them.

So from now on when it comes to dating, don't date anyone who doesn't fit what is on your list. If they have intolerable behaviors or habits, don't go out with them. If they don't like kids or dogs or any of the categories on your list, then they are not right for you. Yes this is going to raise your self esteem in the process. You need to believe, not just think, that you deserve better, that you are worth getting to know, and that you have something great to offer.This is the laws of attraction at work. Once you start thinking like this, you will start attracting those great guys you've been dreaming of.


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