How to build confidence and attract men.

Learning how to build confidence is like learning to ride a bike, it just takes some practice. When I hear someone say, I'm just not pretty enough to date him I know that it is just a lack of confidence holding them back.

We make excuses for why we don't have dates on Friday nights. If we happen to remain dateless for a period of time, our minds start to rationalize that it must be because we just aren't beautiful enough. This is an old problem, lack of confidence.

I come from a family of short, overweight women. My mother was short and passed that on to me and my daughter. Typical height is 5'3 and slightly chunky. I have never really been skinny, I lost some weight just before I got pregnant with my first child and since then I have never been able to get back to where I was. And my daughter has the same problem. She gained a lot of weight while pregnant with her son.

But what amazes me is the fact that although she doesn't feel that she is particularly beautiful, she manages to attract guys all over the place. What's her secret: she has an outgoing and spontaneous personality. Guys love it. It's like a magnet, I don't think she is even aware of it.

Confidence attracts men like bees to honey.The most attractive thing about a woman is her confidence. If she seems at ease in any situation, a guy knows she is being herself.

Knowing how to build confidence is a skill that any one can learn and use to raise their self-esteem, especially if you've not been dating for a while. Sometimes we put our dating life on hold due to frustration, it's just easier to stay home and rent a movie.


Guys love women in all their shapes and sizes. Although most men would admit that they may not initially be attracted to a larger woman, then they meet a woman with a great personality and a lot of confidence it changes their perspective. This is true just look around. How many times have you seen a really handsome guy with a woman who is pretty and well-dressed, and wonder how she got him because he's soooo good-looking?

Being pretty may bring more men into your life, but they may not be the right ones. Chemistry is a matter of many things, including common interests, beliefs, and compatible personalities. It's not just about two mutually attractive people seeing one another.

Build confidence by doing little things you're comfortable with. Like smiling at guys when walking down the street, or at work or even in line at the grocery store.

To find the right man, you simply need to create situations where your winning personality could do its work. Smile at more strangers, expand social circles, get involved in fun activities, attend more city events. Feeling good about yourself will naturally make you more confident.


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