Dating tips for single women

How to Keep a Man Interested Beyond the Second Date

2011-10-29T21:56:00.000-07:00

How to Keep a Man Interested Beyond the Second Date: Do you know how to keep a man interested beyond the second date? How many times have you met a great guy and thought everything was going great, but he stopped calling after the second date? You wonder what happened. He seemed so perfect and everything was going so well, at least you thought it was. This scenario will repeat itself many times during your adult dating life.

How to build confidence and attract men.

2009-09-06T13:43:00.000-07:00

Learning how to build confidence is like learning to ride a bike, it just takes some practice. When I hear someone say, I'm just not pretty enough to date him I know that it is just a lack of confidence holding them back.

We make excuses for why we don't have dates on Friday nights. If we happen to remain dateless for a period of time, our minds start to rationalize that it must be because we just aren't beautiful enough. This is an old problem, lack of confidence.

I come from a family of short, overweight women. My mother was short and passed that on to me and my daughter. Typical height is 5'3 and slightly chunky. I have never really been skinny, I lost some weight just before I got pregnant with my first child and since then I have never been able to get back to where I was. And my daughter has the same problem. She gained a lot of weight while pregnant with her son.

But what amazes me is the fact that although she doesn't feel that she is particularly beautiful, she manages to attract guys all over the place. What's her secret: she has an outgoing and spontaneous personality. Guys love it. It's like a magnet, I don't think she is even aware of it.

Confidence attracts men like bees to honey.The most attractive thing about a woman is her confidence. If she seems at ease in any situation, a guy knows she is being herself.

Knowing how to build confidence is a skill that any one can learn and use to raise their self-esteem, especially if you've not been dating for a while. Sometimes we put our dating life on hold due to frustration, it's just easier to stay home and rent a movie.

Guys love women in all their shapes and sizes. Although most men would admit that they may not initially be attracted to a larger woman, then they meet a woman with a great personality and a lot of confidence it changes their perspective. This is true just look around. How many times have you seen a really handsome guy with a woman who is pretty and well-dressed, and wonder how she got him because he's soooo good-looking?

Being pretty may bring more men into your life, but they may not be the right ones. Chemistry is a matter of many things, including common interests, beliefs, and compatible personalities. It's not just about two mutually attractive people seeing one another.

Build confidence by doing little things you're comfortable with. Like smiling at guys when walking down the street, or at work or even in line at the grocery store.

To find the right man, you simply need to create situations where your winning personality could do its work. Smile at more strangers, expand social circles, get involved in fun activities, attend more city events. Feeling good about yourself will naturally make you more confident.

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Love and Dating Secrets, Sure Fire Clues Tell You He is into You!

2009-08-03T09:43:00.000-07:00

If you're a single woman then you need to know the dating secrets. These are little clues in his personality and behavior that will tell you for sure if he is into you or not. And if he's not, then don't waste any more of your time on him, move on to the next candidate.

Women all over the world need a way to know whether or not a guy is really interested. We change our lives every time we meet someone new. Waiting by the phone because they said they'd call and turning down plans with
friends because they might miss his call.

To quote a line from the movie( and you know which one I mean) "If he's not calling, he's just not interested". If he makes excuses for why he didn't call, he's lying! If a man really wants something he will make every effort to get it. If he's making excuses then he just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. It will be a different excuse the next time-please don't' fall for it. Once is enough, a guy who consistently makes excuses for things isn't all that interested.
Here are some little clues for you, that will let you know that he is definitely interested.

1. He can't wait to spend time with you.

He always calls ahead to confirm your dates. This guy leaves nothing to chance; he wants to make sure that you haven't changed your mind about going out with him. Since he knows it's in bad taste to cancel a date at the last minute.

2. He's not in a hurry to end the date.

When the date is over, he asks if you would like to go get coffee, a drink or anything else to delay the ending of the evening. He is enjoying his time with you and doesn't want to see it end. He is using this time to his advantage by making sure he impresses you in any way he can, he wants you to keep seeing him.

A guy who is truly interested in you will make the effort to let you know that he likes you.

"He's Just Not That Into You-Dating tips book review

2009-07-31T09:07:00.000-07:00

He's Not That Into You"

I got this book a few weeks ago and started reading it. I have to say that I was one of those women who made the same assumptions when it came to guys not calling back. I'd meet someone and everything seemed to be going good, I gave him my number and he did call a couple times. So I thought I had it made. In our last conversation he said he'd call the next day. But the next day came and went and no phone call.

Like most women, I just assumed that maybe he was busy and didn't have the chance to call yet, so I waited. And after a few days I began to wonder if maybe he lost my number. I wondered if I should call him just in case. So finally I did, I got his voice mail and left a casual message. I thought now for sure he'll call back. A few days went by and no call. But still for some reason It never occurred to me that maybe he just wasn't all that interested. And I spent a couple of days doing what every woman does when this happens: wondering what I did wrong! Did I say something to scare him off, was I not attractive enough, in my mind there just had to be some reason. But really, I did nothing wrong. I just couldn't see that he wasn't that into me.

I got the book "He's Just Not That Into You" by Liz Tuccillo and Greg Behrendt. I had seen it advertised and this was before the movie came out. So I got into the book right away, I was curious about how guys think when it comes to dating and relationships. I could myself in those examples in the book, I was making the same assumptions and the same excuses they were.

The idea for this book came about by accident. Greg Behrendt was at a conference where the author of this book was also attending. Some of the others were sitting around talking and one women asked a question and it was Greg's answer right off that set the whole thing in motion.
She was telling a friend that she met this guy and everything was great and then suddenly he stopped calling. She asked her friend if she had done anything to scare him away. So she was quite shocked when Greg answered the question by saying "No, it sounds like he just wasn't that into you! Wow, could it really be that simple? Just a lack of interest?

We make all kinds of excuses as to why a guy hasn't called back because we don't want to think that the nice, good-looking guy we just met could be that rude. But it's not rudeness on his part. He just doesn't want to hurt your feeling or risk making you cry by saying that he really doesn't think it will work out. Men will do anything to not hurt your feelings, at least most decent men will there area few exceptions. So he thinks it's kinder to not lead you on by calling or returning your messages.

But we as women do this too. You have to change the way you see this. Imagine it from a different perspective. Let's say you meet this really nice guy, he's good-looking but not exactly the type your looking for. You talk and he asks for your number. You agree to a date and go out. But you realize after the date that although he's a great guy, theres just something lacking for you. Not anything he did wrong, but your just not really interested in going on another date with him. Here is the saying reversed "You're just not that into him" simple as that. So what do you do? Do you call him and say "hey your a great guy but I'm just not interested in dating you anymore? No way, that would be cruel. I'll just not call him, he'll eventually get the picture and I wont have to hurt his feelings. Sound familiar? It easy to understand this once you see it from a different angle.

If you'd like more insight on men, from a guy's view I recommend reading the book. I really enjoyed it and he is upfront and honest about how guys think. Straight from the horse's mouth. I have experienced the same thing over and over so I know from personal experience. Believe me you are not the only one who has this problem. Read the examples and letters from other women, I know you will see yourself in everyone of them like I did. Not being someones type isn't a crime. We just need to remove the personal feelings from it and realize that if were not his type then we are someone elses and we just haven't met them yet. Move on to the next adventure without hurt feelings and guilt.

Review of "Flirting Made Easy"

2009-07-21T20:22:00.001-07:00

Ok, here it is just like I promised. I just finished reading the book "Flirting Made easy". The author wrote me to say that she changed the title of the book to "From Flirting To Forever". The reason for the name change is that the way the book is written, the idea of flirting doesn't stop with just getting a guys attention. She is conveying the message that the art of flirting is a necessary skill to learn in order to keep the attraction going.

I have to say that I even learned a few things from it. I am just an ordinary woman, who is in the dating pool just like all of you. I am not an expert on relationships, but I started this blog for women like myself who may be struggling when it comes to dating and maintaining a relationship.

We have all been there, you meet someone and connect( or so you think) only to never hear from them again. Why? What went wrong? You ask yourself over and over, what could I have done differently?

Well since reading this book, I have a little better understanding of how men think. The author polled a group of men and asked them questions on attraction and used their real life answers as a basis for this book.

Like the two reasons men wont commit;

1. You're not the one
2. He's not ready

If a man thinks you're the one, and he is ready to have a relationship, there isn't anything he wont do to make that happen. On the other hand, if you're not the one or he's not ready, he'll walk away.

The group of men were asked this question: What do they want and need from a woman. Their answer was, to feel needed and valued as a man. Just like women, they want to feel like they are needed and wanted and they they are special to us. Guy's tend to walk away when they feel that we really don't need them for anything other than sex.

And how about overcoming shyness? This was a problem for me too. There is a section outlining how you can overcome shyness once and for all. How to change your attitude and feelings about yourself, that will change the way guys see you outwardly. It's a proven fact that everyone seems to be drawn to the popular or outgoing girls. If you notice, at a party there's always one girl who seems to have all the guys attention, and she's not overly beautiful but she seems to be the center of attention.

I enjoyed the book, a very good read and learned some new things to apply to my life about confidence and attracting men. I highly recommend it!

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Upcoming book review on "Flirting Made Easy"

2009-07-16T11:14:00.000-07:00

I just received my copy of "Flirting Made Easy" by Kara Oh. And I can't wait to read it.Kara Oh is I have dedicated my blog to finding and listing as many helpful dating resources as possible. Many, many women need dating advice and I will do my best to provide you with the best.

For those of you not familiar with her, here's a little info:

Kara is the best-selling author of Men Made Easy, Marriage Made Easy, Women Made Easy, 9 Ways To Instantly Improve Your Dating Success, How Will You Recognize The Right Man For You?, Creating Rapport That Leads To More, Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Success and soon to be released, Flirting Made Easy, Feminine Grace Made Easy and Male Midlife Crisis. She was invited to be a co-author of 101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life with fellow authors, John Gray, Jack Canfield, Richard Carlson, Bob Proctor and Alan Cohan. She was also included in the newly released Love Book, 50 Most Trusted Experts.

She's a Dating and Relationship Expert, Seminar Leader, Inspirational Speaker, radio and TV personality, mother of two fantastic grown children, and grandmother of a magical 13 year old grandson. And at 60, she's enjoying the best relationship of her life. "I'm living proof that at any age you can create a relationship that is sexy, juicy, and filled with more love than you could ever dream possible."

I have decided that I will post a first-hand review of the book here after I finish reading it.I'll give you my readers opinion! If you'd like to order a copy for yourself, follow the link below.

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Secrets To Becoming A Self-Made Goddess

2009-07-14T19:49:00.000-07:00

I just wrote my first Ebook Titled "Secrets To Becoming A Self-Made Goddess". It is a guide for the average woman to transforming herself into the Goddess she was meant to be, and to attract the man of her dreams.

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Dating and Relationships - 5 Tips For Keeping Him Interested

2009-07-14T18:51:00.000-07:00

I'm going to call these dating and relationship tips because they apply whether you are dating someone new or if you have a new relationship already and want to keep it flowing in the right direction. A guy wants someone who is not afraid to eat dessert, will go to a baseball game without worrying about getting hat hair, or is ready to backpack through the country on a moments notice. He wants someone fun and challenging. The best way to keep a relationship fresh is to keep it fun.

Dating and Relationship Tips:

What not to talk about on a date:

The number one thing that will kill a prospective new dating relationship, is talking about your Ex. Big no-no. Guys don't want to hear about our ex-boyfriends any more than we want to hear about their ex-girlfriends. Also it paints a picture in his mind that you're still hung up on your Ex if you talk about him non-stop. Everyone has previous relationship baggage, but let it go and move on. You're embarking on a new journey so look to the future and leave the past behind.

Don't obsess about your weight:

This will turn a guy off for sure.If he takes you to a nice restaurant, it won't kill you to eat one carb loaded meal while enjoying his company. It's one day out of your life, enjoy it because you can obsess about your diet tomorrow. Guys like a woman who keeps in shape. They don't necessarily care about size and weight as long as you look proportionate. And if you obsess over such things, he will come to see you as needy, and insecure. Not a good quality to have. Eat good food in moderation and exercise and you'll be just fine.

Don't drink like a fish:

We all get nervous just before a date, but keep alcohol to a minimum of 2 drinks. You don't want to get drunk and spill all your closely guarded secrets. You might say more than you realize. Or do something totally embarrassing because you less inhibited than usual. Keep yourself in check. Stick to 2 drinks and be sure to eat with them.Tropical type drinks that are made with fruit juice are usually pretty mild compared to some others. And order a glass of water to sip in between drinks. These tips help to keep you from absorbing the alcohol to quickly.

Have something interesting to say:

It's hard to talk about ourselves and not sound like we're bragging, but it's good to show that you are an interesting person and have a life. Talk about something you do that is special and unique. Be an interesting person. If you like skydiving or hangliding or horseback riding through the mountains, talk about something that happened on one of your trips. It helps to think of topics for conversation before hand. Keeps things flowing and avoid lags in conversation. Sometimes that happens and you can't really help it, but that is a sign to you that this may not be a good prospect for you. It shouldn't be a hard to keep someone talking once you have their attention.

You'll be OK if he's not "The One"

Decide before the date is over that you will be Ok if he doesn't call you for another date. Dating is like window shopping, you may not be interested in buying at the moment.If there's no chemistry or spark of interest between the two of you, then let it go. He'll be polite and say he had fun. You can usually tell if you'll be asked for a second date, judging by how the first one is going. Don't take it personally and don't be offended.Remember you're window shopping too!

Meet Men Using The Laws Of Attraction

2009-07-14T18:42:00.000-07:00

I can identify with this common situation as I too am a single woman. And I have had my share of dating experiences that I'd rather not repeat. So how do we change our failures to successes. You have to change the way you think about yourself and the man you are looking to meet. You must have a very clear idea of what you want in a potential boyfriend or partner. So I guess the first place to start is to sit down with pad and pen and make a list of all the qualities you admire and want your guy to have. Be realistic, nobody's perfect. Keep it simple make it a relatively short list because you don't want to set your expectations too high in the beginning.

Most people think that the laws of attraction don't work because they think it's like positive affirmations, the more you say it will make it so. This is not the case. It's not repeating something. It is changing your attitude, way of thinking and expectations. People who want to be rich try this and say "it doesn't work because I'm not rich". No but what did you think about today? Were you thinking about how great it would be to expand your business, or buy a bigger house, or get that new car you've been wanting. The answer most times is no. They actually spent the day thinking about their budget, when the phone bill is due, the rent payment, their kids doctor bills, how can they get more insurance and the list goes on.

Is it clear yet why their not rich? Their attention is always on what they are lacking. It is always focused on the negative. So it stands to reason that if we are like magnets and attract things similar to ourselves. If we have a mentality of always getting less than we deserve, then that is what we will get. Always less than we deserve. And this works for relationships too.

I'm sure we all have at least one friend that we feel is dating below their standards. They put up with guys showing up late, or not calling when they say they will, and they keep giving these guys another chance every time. I need to point this out about not calling when they say they will because it is actually an important issue. It may not seem like a big thing, but when a guy says "I'll call you at 5pm tomorrow" and then doesn't he is wasting your time. These women are kind-hearted and feel that they should give the benefit of the doubt. But what they need to do is raise their standards and expectations. Then they would be dating a better group of men who would show up on time, call you when they say and prove that there are good guys out there. We just need to find them.

So how do we use the laws of attraction when it comes to dating?

1. Make your list of desirable traits, likes and characteristics. Example: kind, likes dogs and kids, etc.
2. Make a list of behaviors that you find intolerable: lateness, poor hygiene, bad breath, etc and etc.
3. Make a list of qualities you wish you had yourself. This is about changing you, not changing them.

So from now on when it comes to dating, don't date anyone who doesn't fit what is on your list. If they have intolerable behaviors or habits, don't go out with them. If they don't like kids or dogs or any of the categories on your list, then they are not right for you. Yes this is going to raise your self esteem in the process. You need to believe, not just think, that you deserve better, that you are worth getting to know, and that you have something great to offer.This is the laws of attraction at work. Once you start thinking like this, you will start attracting those great guys you've been dreaming of.

Love and Dating Secrets, Is He is into You?

2009-07-14T10:06:00.000-07:00

If you're a single woman then you need to know the dating secrets. These are little clues in his personality and behavior that will tell you for sure if he is into you or not. And if he's not, then don't waste any more of your time on him, move on to the next candidate.

Women all over the world need a way to know whether or not a guy is really interested. We change our lives every time we meet someone new. Waiting by the phone because they might miss his call.

To quote a line from the movie( and you know which one I mean) "If he's not calling, he's just not interested". If he makes excuses for why he didn't call, he's lying! If a man really wants something he will make every effort to get it. If he's making excuses then he just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. It will be a different excuse the next time-please don't' fall for it. Once is enough, a guy who consistently makes excuses for things isn't all that interested.
Here are some little clues for you, that will let you know that he is definitely interested.

1. He can't wait to spend time with you.

He always calls ahead to confirm your dates. This guy leaves nothing to chance; he wants to make sure that you haven't changed your mind about going out with him. Since he knows it's in bad taste to cancel a date at the last minute.

2. He's not in a hurry to end the date.

When the date is over, he asks if you would like to go get coffee, a drink or anything else to delay the ending of the evening. He is enjoying his time with you and doesn't want to see it end. He is using this time to his advantage by making sure he impresses you in any way he can, he wants you to keep seeing him.

A guy who is truly interested in you will want you to know that he likes you.

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2009-07-13T21:03:00.001-07:00

How To Be Irresistible To Men-A Sneak Peek!

2009-07-02T23:03:00.000-07:00

Kissing 101

2009-07-02T22:44:00.000-07:00

Become a Super-Kisser
by Michelle Penney

What’s the difference between a kiss that goes flat and a kiss that tickles the toes? Some kisses you can feel tingle up your spine, while others feel like the mechanical meeting of lips.

Here’s my list of the Top 5 Reasons that some kisses are super, while others end up duds.

1. Emotional connection.

If you kiss a guy or girl that you kind of like, then your kiss will be kind of nice. But if you kiss a guy or girl you REALLY like, then your kiss will be REALLY special. An emotional connection is crucial for an amazing kiss. When the physical pleasure of a kiss combines with the emotional pleasure of sharing an intimate moment, fireworks happen.

2. Great comfort level.

One of the great killers of the pleasure of kissing is nerves. The more nervous you are, the tenser you feel. Tension makes you stiff and unyielding – the complete opposite of what a great kisser should be! When you’re anxious about the result of a kiss or self-conscious about whether you’re doing it right, you won’t be able to enjoy the moment like you should. Worse, your tension will get communicated to your partner. Relax and flow in the moment.

3. Ability to forget the world.

The top kisses seem to go on forever. Your mind is clear of everything but your partner’s breath, responses, murmurs, and body against yours. But it can be hard to forget the world if you’re in a noisy environment, being jostled by other people, or are in an uncomfortable position. For example, despite their popularity as makeout locations, cars are notoriously uncomfortable places to kiss. Too, if you’re feeling self-conscious about your kissing technique or wondering if others are watching, you’ll bring yourself out of the moment and back to earth. Clear your head the next time you kiss and let nothing else matter.

4. Imagination.

Great kissers don’t just do what they do best; they adapt to their partner and experiment with different kinds of kisses. If your kissing repertoire consists of two styles – kiss and French kiss – then it may be time to explore the possibilities. Vary the pace and pressure of your kisses. Expand from the mouth and kiss the eyelids, neck, even nibble the ear. Be inventive.

5. Rhythm.

The best kisses have an ebb and flow. They start gently, become greedy, then allow a pause for breathing and meeting one another’s eyes. A kiss is sometimes called a dance of the lips, and it’s important to remember that kisses, like dances, must have a rhythm. Nothing is worse than someone who is so intent on kissing you that they don’t allow you room to breath. Let your kiss find its natural rhythm. Allow it to warm up and eventually cool down. Always take time to reconnect with your partner through catching his or her eyes and breathing together.

If you really care about someone, are completely relaxed, there in the moment, and allow your kissing to find its natural rhythm and expression, you’ll find that your kisses become much more intense and enjoyable.

Learn more tips and techniques like these in my book, Kissing 101. You’ll learn step-by-step methods for becoming a fantastic kisser. It’s completely illustrated, so there’s no way you can go wrong! Avoid rejection by learning the signals that tell you to go or not go for a kiss. Become an expert in body language: interpret how your partner responds to your kiss with my handy guide. Whether you want to learn how to French kiss or what it would be like to kiss with a tongue ring, my complete guide to kissing tips and techniques has the answers! Check it out today at my website:

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Dating Advice For Women

2009-07-02T21:49:00.000-07:00

Sick and tired of being single?

It’s sad when all of your friends seem to be getting dates and you are left on the sidelines again. You see an endless parade of great men going home with average girls, and wonder what you need to do to find your own soulmate. Amy Waterman has the answer to your question in her guide to attracting men. She shows you how to use your feminine power and charisma in a way that will tantalize and intrigue.

Apply the secrets that Amy shares with you and amaze your friends at your success with men. Why slum it with the other girls when you can give yourself a competitive edge and attract the man that you really want? You can do this without compromising your character.

You will also learn:

Why men are really attracted to women - it's about more than looks!
Where all the really great men are and how to find them
How to change a man’s fear of commitment
Super advice for flirting, overcoming shyness, getting over a breakup, and more!

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Be Irresistible To Men

2009-07-02T21:46:00.000-07:00

Hi,

I was reading an article on relationships on the weekend, and I was shocked at what I learned! It's strange that one of the hardest areas of life is one that is so often overlooked when it comes to getting good advice.

So many people don't have the slightest idea what to do when single and on the dating scene. We have so many other things in life that we are prepared for, like schooling, driving tests etc, but nothing prepares us for what men expect when they are dating women! It can be hard enough to put yourself out there and look for nice men, let alone know what to do to keep one when they show an interest.

Finally someone has taken it upon themselves to provide women with good information to help them attract and interest men. Amy Waterman has a comprehensive guide to the world of dating and arms every woman (single or attached) with a virtual arsenal of information, secrets and tips to use to enhance their charisma and appeal to men of all ages.

She includes tips such as:

* becoming the sort of woman to turn heads when she walks into a room
* attracting the right kind of men for a relationship and how to see through players
* how to keep from freezing up or scaring a man a way
* how to talk to men without letting shyness or self-doubt get in your way
* how to keep a relationship hot no matter how long you've been together

and much, much more!

I was a little sceptical at first, but after reviewing the amount of information in this dating and relationships course, I was truly impressed at the quality of information. The tips and techniques in this package have been trialed and tested so you know the information you are using is going to enhance your chances with fantastic men, not jeopardize them without you knowing!

This course is particularly refreshing because it enables viewers to work with what they have, rather than pretending to be something they aren't. Amy encourages this and teaches women how to maximize their charisma and appeal without compromising their integrity or character. You should never pretend to be something you aren't to attract a man, but Amy teaches you to make the very best of what you have and use this to attract genuine men that you are attracted to.

Her online multimedia course is also one of the most comprehensive I have seen in a long time. It includes two hours of online video (watch online or download to your computer), as well as:

* a 111-page workbook to go with the course
* the original "How to be Irresistible to Men" eBook by Sarah Paul
* a guide to overcoming shyness in dating
* over 60 minutes of audio articles to help you get over a breakup
* numerous video seminars you can watch online on topics like healthy relationships and attaining super-selfconfidence
* a personal email consultation and area to chat with other members

I think you will be as impressed as I was when you see the volume of quality information in this package. I introduced one of my friends to "How to Be Irresistible to Men," and for the first time in years she can see for herself where she's been going wrong. Her love life is just humming. It's been amazing to see!

But don't just take my word for it. Take a look for yourself! Get a head start and become that woman that we all envy. I'm sure you will be as impressed as I was.

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Bye for now
Lisa Musser